Sunday, January 10, 2016

I failed a big exam twice. Should I give up?

It often happens with students in tough exams - say, UPSC or IIMCAT or XAT. They give their best, and yet are unable to make it even after two attempts. What to do then?

Ask yourself these questions:
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  1. How many aspirants crack the exam in the first attempt? If the answer is anywhere less than 100%, you are not on the wrong track.
  2. How many crack the test in the second attempt? If the answer is again significantly less than 100%, you have hope left.
  3. Do some people make it in their 3rd or 4th attempt? If the answer is Yes, you can be one of them.
The real questions to ask, post the above, will be
  • Why did I fail in my two attempts? Where did I fall short? Which topics could I not master adequately? Can I master them now, given this background? Was I really sincere enough? What did those who got selected did right that I missed on?
  • How badly do I aspire to be a top civil servant? If it's bad enough, striving for a couple of years more is a good idea.
  • What do my parents think of it? Do they have faith in me? Will they support me emotionally, and if required, financially through the next few months/years?
  • Do I have the energy left in me to go the whole hog again? Or am I exhausted? Was I exhausted even before the second attempt came through?
  • If I do not make it even in the next 2 years, what are the other options I am looking at?

Take a small break. Think deeply along these lines. If there is that "aha moment" when you feel totally at ease, totally relaxed and full of clarity in mind, follow the decision that you take at that moment. 

We have all had our share of failures in life. But successful people do not stop at a milestone, or when in a ditch. They keep moving forward, because life does not stop for anyone or anything. As they say, our mindset and attitude has to ultimately mould our lives to best fit our reality, and there is no one better than you to reach that conclusion. 

Finally, it's just an exam! Your success in life may lie way beyond it. God bless!


Ajulkumar Pandya said...

Success consists of three vital components

Hard-Work, Patience, and Discipline.

Don't afraid of Failure if you possess above qualities,

Don't give up if you miss any of above quality.

DISAK said...

It does not matter how slowly we go
as long as we go should never give up

er.rakesh kumar ranjan said...

sir please suggest ways to improve writing skil for upsc or for general purpose.